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Monogamy is the balance point that all marriage rests on. It’s the first relationship, and the first love. Monogamy isn’t just a form of marriage, it’s a mindset, a habit, and a pattern.
In any society, the average is that 85-90% of all people will be monogamous. The other 10-15% will be a balance of celibates and polygamists. Look on the definition page for more information on that and why they are so terribly important to a healthy society.
Monogamy is defined as a man or woman who has had only one mate in their lifetime. Everyone else falls into the other two categories. You can read more below.
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Husband the person who is a manager of a property/homestead, to include everything within it’s borders.
Husband was a gender specific word only because men were generally the owners of land. But women could and do own land as well, so the word is and does apply to women, making it gender neutral. A woman can be the husband of animals, or the husband of her own resources, and yes, she can husband land. It was much later when the word was used for a married man, and that usage is incorrect even if common. Using the term in reference to a married man, is to adopt an alternative definition that means, “Owner of woman.”
Husband is a combination of two Old Norse words, “hus,” and, “bondi.” Hus means House, and bondi is occupier or tiller of the soil.” It could be the general equivalent of Landowner in English but the definition of the two words hus and bondi represent a deeper concept than what we think of in English.
Ancient people didn’t make deeds. They settled in an area and defined an area they were going to manage. Sometimes this was a rock wall and you can still see those in the country. Sometimes it was a fence, or other barrier like hedges. If he could tend the land, he could keep it, but if he was unable to do so, then others could take the land from him. According to many early laws, he had to physically occupy and work the land to be considered it’s husband.
The husbands duties include managing the land, planting or harvesting crops, and managing resources.
Animal Husbandry is when a person has the care and control of animals. S/he is responsible for the care, feeding, maintenance, and even breeding of those animals. The husband had to be able to manage and maintain his household, which often meant managing money, food supplies, resources, and dealing with issues. Just a note… husbandry is not leadership, it’s management.
Wife = Woman. Female.
Wife was originally wif. Wif was used similarly to the English word, “Female.” The word Wif had many modifiers, and could be, “Wifman,” which would be female servant, or, “Alewife,” as a barmaid or tavern keeper. Housewife or Huswif was not a married woman, but a female servant in it’s original meaning.
The word “Wive,” meant to marry a woman. Wiving was the act of taking a wife and it literally means, “man taking woman.”
English uses the word, “Wife,” in a way that was never intended. As with many English words, as the USA was settled, it also brought many languages that were condensed to new meanings definitions and roles. In some cases Language Drift and Definition Drift is so dramatic that the original word was lost and a new similar sounding words evolved to replace it, but carrying a completely different meaning. That appears to be the case for Wife. To reiterate, the word simply means, “Female,” not married woman.
The oiginal word, “Wif,” had sexual connotations. Originally this word meant someone you had sex with, and as such the word is Neuter, as in it’s not firmly tied to a gender. If a man had sex with a man, and was on the ‘recieving’ side, then he could be referred to as the wif.
Monogamy, the act of mating with only one other within a persons lifetime.
Monogamy is a Greek combination of the words, “Monos,” which is single or one, and, “Gamos,” which can be married, or sex partner. Basically the word literally means “One Sex Partner.” The first instance of the word in literature was a clergyman in the Church of England, Thomas Taylor, in 1612.
The word has multiple meanings, and multiple uses. The original meaning was a person who married only once in a lifetime as oppose to polygamist who marries more than one, and celibate who doesn’t marry at all.
What’s notable about the word is that an individual who has ever had sex with more than one woman, married or not, would not be considered monogamous.
As the word is relatively new, originating from the Catholic Church/Church of Englansdin 1610.
Patriarchy is a noun, “The jurisdiction of a patriarch; a patriarchate. A patriarch is, a father and leader of a family such as Jacob or Abraham or other ancient man who established a clan/nation. It can also be a learned and distinguished gentleman.
Patriarchy is from Latin, and a combination of pater (father) and arkhein (beginning, origin, first place). The word evolved to also include the concept of ruler or leader. In essence, however, to be known as a patriarch, you have the be the progenitor of a family, the absolute oldest living male and have crafted a family that has distinguished itself. It’s not a self title, but one of honor granted by others.
Leadership is the act of leading. As opposed to management, leadership is the act/art of setting long and short terms goals, then moving along a path to achieve those goals. Leadership is movement.
The word is from the Greek word, “hēgemonia,“ leading the way, going first. The original meaning of the word was to track down or trace, make a path.
In the last few centuries, the terms leader and manager have become synonymous even though they carry vastly different meanings. While a leader will set the path of a household, the manager manages resources within the household. I personally see this as representative of the damage done to marriage by being unbalanced. Meanings have meshed into concepts that no longer carry the original intent, and this is mirrored in how people attempt to engage in the roles that make marriage work.
Management is a the act of conducting business. Conducting the administration of a family, business, farm, or state affairs. It’s interesting to note that the word, “Conduct,” is used as a band director or music leader. It means to flow from one place to another. Conduct a band is to flow the directions of the music from the paper to the band, or in the form of electricity to conduct from source to use.
The terms originated in the 1590’s and referred to the director of a theater or the collective undertakings of a group of people dedicated to one end goal. It also related to the term Husband in that it was the handling and training of a horse under the leader of someone trained to husband horses. Manager is a subordinate position to husband.