Celibacy does not mean not mean that you don’t have sex, it means you don’t want to be in a relationship, or you simply don’t feel attracted to the opposite sex.  Or to anyone, really.

    Some people choose to be celibate for a time in their lives so they can work on themselves, resolve a personal issue, or just spend time alone. Many people should take time to spend time discovering themselves, and learning how to be the person they want to be.  Some choose to enter the Military, others choose to travel and explore, and some just want to be alone because it’s comfortable.  These people… you, possibly, also deal with those who don’t or will not understand.  They call you off, odd, gay, lesbian, and a host of names.  They think you would be willing if they just tried a little harder, or wanted you a little more.  It’s stupid, and foolish.  But more than that, it’s dangerous. Those who would push you, are not interested in you, but what you represent.  A challenge.

    Some people choose to be celibate because when they look at someone of the opposite sex, they’re not attracted to them.  A true celibate doesn’t want to be intimate as much as have male and female friends.  They prefer to spend time enjoying their company, then when the day ends, are more than happy to go home, make a salad or toast up the meat of choice, have a nice dinner alone, and go to bed.  These people, again possibly you, are probably dealing with those around who see you as a challenge.  Someone to overcome, convince to hop into bed.  Some, cruel and angry, have probably attacked you, called you names, and even threatened you because you don’t want to be with them.

    Lastly, when a woman or man is abused, it makes it very difficult to trust the opposite sex.  The fact the abuse happened, and it left scars, is not easily communicated or understood.  It’s not pleasant.  And while some abused persons prefer their own sex for intimacy because it grants some of the relationship benefits without the burden of the gender issues, not all choose this path.  Some choose to be alone, and to make friends with people they can trust.

    This side of the website is for you.  It’s a place where your experiences as a celibate individual can help others avoid some of the pitfalls that you’ve overcome, and learn from your experiences.  This section has menu items like Celebrating Life, where you can share your time alone, camping, horseback riding, or a host of other activities that you do to live life to the fullest, alone.  Definitions are just that.  History will recount the lives of people who chose celibacy, and their contributions.  Betrothal may surprise you as it’s a contract you make with yourself.  Then there’s the blog, and podcast.  The Blog is not about us, but about you.  Write, share, and if it’s something that’s wonderful or exciting or a warning, I’ll post your story and give you credit.  Lastly, the podcast.  This is going to be all the truth of celibacy to help others. I or my wife will host, according to the subject and issues involved.  She has many of the issues many of you have, and has overcome them.  So, sit back, grab a cup of coffee, and enjoy. 

    Oh!  How does this apply to monogamy and polygamy?  You are the inspiration for freedom, self growth, and self exploration.  Celibacy provides a much needed and necessary balance to life.  Without Celibacy, neither Monogamy nor Polygamy would exist.